Disordered Eating: Frequent dieting, anxiety associated with specific foods, skipping meals, consistent weight fluctuations, rigid food and exercise rituals, guilt & shame associated with eating, preoccupation with food & body image, exhibiting compensatory behaviors before or after eating.
The above list is long…too long if you ask us! First things first: disordered eating is the ‘norm’ in our culture today; just because something is “normal” does not mean it should be acceptable. Because of diet culture, women feel constant shame for existing in a body that doesnt align with society’s current beauty ideal. We see “acceptable” bodies all over the internet, social media platforms, magazines, billboards, and in our peer/family circles. When we don’t look like these ‘one-size-fits-all’ bodies many of us feel embarassment and insecurity…”why don’t I look like her?” “I am going on a diet tomorrow #thighgapgoals” “Uch, my stomach has so many rolls.” “Oh my gosh, she is really skinny. Uch, I feel like a cow compared to her.” The negative messages we play in our head are never-ending, and societal expectations are everflowing.
When women, and a growing number of men, feel this way they typically resort to disordered eating &/or chronic dieting, something many disordered eaters exhibit. Chronic dieting is not just going on Jenny Craig or Atkins, for many, chronic dieting is “clean eating,” jumping back on the Whole 30 protocol every few months, flip flopping from Paleo to Keto, eliminating white carbs or all carbs from your diet, or putting yourself on a very low calorie diet (1,200-1,600 calories/day IS in fact low despite diet culture saying otherwise). There is such shame for the bodies we inhabit that the only thing we can bare to imagine is changing those bodies, often times wanting to do so very quickly. But what if society didn’t tell us these messages? Would we still have the desire to semi-starve ourselves and partake in movement we don’t enjoy?
Let’s learn to build emotional resilience and knowledge about the billion-dollar diet industry and arm you with tools to begin accepting the skin your in.
There was never anything wrong with your body, dear. There was never anything wrong with YOU! Unfortunately, there is plenty wrong with our world’s concept of bodies, but we can work toward not letting that effect you on the daily. Let’s find peace with food and exercise and remember that both of these things were not placed in this world so we would obsess about them.
Every human being was uniquely designed, a beautiful blueprint of different physical characteristics.
We are anything but one-size-fits-all and we need to start embracing that. We need to remember that trying to embody a different shape than our own is not going to lead anywhere positive long-term. 95% of diets fail people, not the other way around. Let’s turn the tables and empower you with the skills and information to regain confidence and control over your relationship with food and exercise.